Relationship Therapy in Colorado Springs
Stop repeating the same patterns. Therapy for relationship conflict, communication, trust, toxic and emotionally abusive relationships, and attachment, in person in Colorado Springs and online across Colorado.
Being in a relationship has its challenges.
Are you repeating patterns in your relationships? Everything starts out great, but no matter what you do, it ends up the same. You might feel stuck waiting for someone to hear you, or like you are always the giver.
It may feel like a constant cycle of stability and fighting. Everything is fine, and then you don’t talk for days. Nothing gets resolved, and conflict becomes the only form of communication. Or maybe you are trying to make sense of a relationship that hurt you, and wondering how you ended up there again.
We are the last person who can ask someone else to change.
In a relationship, our best chance at change is to lead by example. Problems happen when we over-promise and under-deliver. Someone might agree they love the opera on the first date, then spend six months quietly torturing themselves every Saturday night. Small performances like that add up, and eventually the real you shows up anyway.
Learning new communication skills helps, but the heart of the issue is authenticity and connection with yourself. When we stop expecting others to change for us and accept all the parts of ourselves, we make room for deeper intimacy. Your feelings are your truth, not the truth, and the same is true for the people you love.
Connection, disconnection, and repair.
Every relationship moves through a cycle of connection, disconnection, and repair. Conflict is inevitable and ultimately healthy. What matters is knowing how to find your way back to each other, and never letting a disconnection threaten someone’s sense of being loved.
Much of what we struggle with in relationships was learned long before we met our partner. When we resist our own emotions, we find other ways to avoid them, and relationships often become one of them. We pass down what we can’t let go. But the ripple runs both directions. The same way hurt travels through families and relationships, so does healing. It usually starts with one person deciding to stop avoiding, to feel what they have spent years running from, and to treat their emotions as information instead of something to resist.
We draw on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Internal Family Systems (IFS), attachment-based work inspired by Sue Johnson, and the Gottman Method to help you build relationships rooted in connection rather than disconnection, so you can love fearlessly and feel loved through acceptance, commitment, and flexibility.
On your own or together
You don’t need your partner in the room to change your relationships. Many people do this work individually, focusing on their own patterns, boundaries, and attachment. When both partners want to come, couples therapy is available too.
Couples therapy → Codependency & boundaries → Selfhood Sanctuary group →
Relationship Therapy at a glance
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Insurance we accept
Questions about coverage or cost? Email Sarah or text 719-357-6569.
Relationship Therapy FAQ
Do I need my partner to attend relationship therapy?
No. Many people do relationship work individually, focusing on their own patterns, boundaries, and attachment. Couples therapy is also available when both partners want to come.
Why do I keep repeating the same relationship patterns?
Patterns are often learned in our families of origin and through past hurts, and they tend to repeat until we understand what they are protecting. Therapy helps you see where they came from and practice new ways of connecting.
Can therapy help me recover from a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship?
Yes. We help you make sense of what happened, rebuild trust in your own perceptions, set boundaries, and understand the patterns that drew you in, so your next relationship can feel different.
Do you offer relationship therapy online?
Yes. We offer relationship and couples therapy in person in Colorado Springs and online anywhere in Colorado.
Does insurance cover relationship therapy?
Individual therapy for relationship concerns is often covered, especially when anxiety, depression, or trauma are involved. Couples therapy is often not covered unless it is part of one partner’s treatment. We are in network with Aetna, United Healthcare, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, Kaiser Permanente, UMR, Medicare, Colorado Medicaid (Health First Colorado), and VA Community Care. Sarah can verify your benefits before your first session.
There are no shortcuts to healing.
But you don’t have to do it alone. Reach out today, and we’ll take it from there.