How childhood trauma shapes codependency, avoidance, and perfectionism By Nicholas Fry “Yeah, sure, tell me how this is all about my childhood.” I hear some version of this from clients all the time, usually with an eye roll. And I get it. But one of the...
By Roxanna Thomas Growing up, I was surrounded by chaos. In my home. Outside my home, with extended family and friends. That chaos taught me quickly how to read a room. How to read the people around me. I learned to conceptualize and rationalize their behavior....
By Nicholas Fry A topic that came up in group this week was the ripple, and the long-term impact that both trauma and healing can have on our relationships. What stood out to me in that conversation is that for many years, I have been aware of the impact of trauma on...
By Esther Anthony Nick recently asked if I would like to write the next Thread and gave me a few ideas to think about. One was this idea of how, as therapists, we have to walk in the same work we ask our clients to do every day. Slow down. Get curious. Sit with...
Four years ago this fall, I opened The Uncommon Heart from a 750 square foot apartment downtown. I was still carrying a full caseload at the VA while building a practice on the side. When it became clear I needed a place to see clients in person, I rented an office by...
